18 Comments

  1. LINDA WILLIAMS
    May 9, 2018 @ 4:38 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story. I can totally relate on so many levels. My husband and I have moved 8 times in 11 years – 6 times by the time my son was 6 years old – and similarly due to job moves, layoffs, etc. And so funny as well since my husband and I were also working together at the same company and were laid off on the same day! I can tell you that I felt the same thing…sadness and anxiety and frustration and exhaustion over having to move so many times. At one point I literally felt like was going to have a nervous breakdown if we had to move again. Since we live in CA and home prices are so crazy, we decided for the last move to secure a rental for a long-term lease (4 yrs). I know it’s not technically our own home but we found a landlord who was willing to let us paint and make other minor improvements so we could feel at home.

    Anyway, just know that what you’re feeling is completely normal!!! And as you said, things do work out for a reason. I’m keeping my fingers crossed and sending you all of my positive thoughts and prayers that you find the perfect home soon!

    Love reading your blog and seeing your Insta posts!

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 9, 2018 @ 4:46 pm

      Thank you so much Linda. It is so comforting to know we are not the only ones in this situation. So great you were able to get a long term rental. And Cali weather must be so nice! We finally got a glimpse of spring here in NY.
      Thank you again for leaving this comment and the kind words.
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  2. Alina
    May 9, 2018 @ 5:21 pm

    Anna! I’m so sorry you’re going through this – I hope you guys find your dream home ASAP!

    Thanks for sharing – I’m sure you feel so much better even writing this out. A little goes a long way!

    – Alina

    http://www.theclosetcrush.com

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 9, 2018 @ 5:41 pm

      Thanks so much Alina! I actually do feel better… sometimes i guess it’s good to air things out.
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  3. Briana
    May 9, 2018 @ 6:11 pm

    Everyone has something, I love how you started out saying what you are thankful for though, that is what gets you through

    Briana
    https://beyoutifulbrunette.com/

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 9, 2018 @ 6:39 pm

      Thank you so much! Trying to keep perspective and be grateful.
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  4. Karely Acker
    May 9, 2018 @ 7:46 pm

    We all have struggles, and everyone copes with them differently! You seem so happy, loving and like you have it all together. When in reality we don’t. I felt the same way about my outside life. I had to be outgoing, and funny meaning; I couldn’t let others see my inner thoughts and emotions. We are afraid to speak about our depression and anxiety but it’s being vulnerable that attracts the right people to your life to help you through the motions. It must be overwhelming, it must be exhausting, and just because no one else FEELS, it does not mean it’s not real! You will get through this! Don’t forget to take care of yourself, in order to take care of your loved ones at your full potential and to be the best version of you! Xoxo

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 10, 2018 @ 1:03 am

      Thank you so much for this message Karely. I was just thinking today I need to really get it together and take care of myself and my health. I feel like I have lost years of my life during this process.
      Thank again for this. Needed to hear that.
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  5. Megan
    May 9, 2018 @ 8:51 pm

    I felt that exact same way going threw my home buying saga. I woke up everyday because I had to, took care of my kids and was just drained from the constant wonder of what is going to happen with this house !?? I found strength I didn’t know I had, I packed boxes not knowing where I was going to be living. I lost 5 pounds from just being too sad. I completely feel for you because you have more then just yourself to worry about and answer too. My family is from westchester ny and I know that market is toughhhhh. I am keep all my fingers and toes crossed that you will have peace of mind very soon & you will find your family the house that speaks to you ! ❤️

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 10, 2018 @ 1:00 am

      wow Megan! our stories are so similar. Thank you so much for sharing. I have been so down… just waiting on this to be over.
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  6. Nina @waterandwine_
    May 9, 2018 @ 9:18 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story! Know that you are not alone! Before finding our current house, we looked for a year. The market is insane right now and extremely competitive. We actually was in the process of closing on a home and the entire thing flooded from a bursted pipe due to the neglect of the seller. We were devastated but ended up finding our current home. I am so much happier with this home! It’s our starter home but everything I wanted and more!

    One door closes so another one can open. Those other houses didn’t work out because they weren’t meant to be, but the right one will come along, i have faith!

    Best of luck always <3

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 10, 2018 @ 12:59 am

      Thank you so much for sharing Nina! Wow you almost lucked out not closing on the other home or you would have been stuck with that mess. So glad it all worked out!
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  7. Maria
    May 10, 2018 @ 1:53 am

    Ah, my heart hurts for you. I grew up slightly transient because of my parents constant fighting and money struggles and it really made me find roots when I finished college. (Not that your kids will feel bad this bad because my situation was different since it was a bad parent environment!) I know the feeling of just wanting to feel settled and safe and wanting to provide that for your kids. You will find a home and please don’t think about how others will perceive your response to these struggles and take comfort in that others can commiserate.

    Reply

    • Anna Monteiro
      May 10, 2018 @ 3:50 am

      Thank you so much for the kind words Maria. I know we will be fine and things will work out for us. But it is also comforting we are not alone in these struggles. Again thank you!
      XX,
      Anna

      Reply

  8. Priscilla
    May 10, 2018 @ 4:33 pm

    This post breaks my heart for you, Anna! You are so much stronger than I would be with all of that moving over the years and changes. Praying you find the perfect home soon! Xoxo

    Reply

  9. Sharon
    May 14, 2018 @ 6:25 pm

    We all have our own struggles and it’s important to give them value and deal with them. I feel ya on the house hunting depression. We searched for our current house for over a year and I got super depressed towards the end. We made two offers on other homes before this home. And now we are hunting again, at least this time we are less pressured to move but I get scared to put my heart into it because it is so tough and emotional. I’m praying for you babe!
    http://www.forthewonderer.com

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

I accept the Privacy Policy

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.